For many of us, the time comes when God calls us to leave a ministry . . . to move to a different town, a different state, or a different church. At those times, I believe how we leave is incredibly important to the spiritual growth of the students we lead.

This is a very personal issue to me right now. As I write, I am preparing for my final Sunday as the volunteer youth minister at my church. Following God’s leadership in my life, I am moving to Texas next week. My heart aches at leaving these people . . . and especially these teenagers . . . that I love so much. But I can only do what I believe God has called me to do.

Some people say that, when you leave a church, it is best to do it fast . . . like ripping a bandaid from a wound. I could not disagree more. In some ways, the last weeks of your ministry in a youth group may be the most important. After four years, I believe I owe my students more than that . . . and I want them to continue to grow in their faith. I have made many mistakes at our church, and my last weeks are no exception, but let me share with you what I have tried to do.

• I have tried to assure our students of how much I love them. I want them to know that departing is not an easy thing for me, that I will miss them.
• I have tried to help the teenagers understand that I am responding to my best understanding of God’s call on my life. When God calls me to follow him in some new way, I have no choice but to follow. I hope they will follow God with abandon when he calls them.
• I have tried to prepare them for new leadership. In our case, the new volunteer youth minister will be one of our current youth leaders. I have assured them he will be there to love them, to take the youth group in new directions. And I have asked them to follow his leadership. Sometimes students feel like they are not being loyal to the old leader if they follow the new one. I want them to feel like the best thing they can do to honor their relationship with me is to continue to invest in the youth ministry when I am gone.
• I have tried to say things I want them to remember. A couple of weeks ago, I took a Bible study hour to meet with the guys in the group. I told them I wanted them to invest themselves in being men of God. I spent an hour telling them what that means–in their devotional lives, their families, the church, their investment in personal ministry, their friendships, and the expression of their sexuality. I doubt if they heard me say anything they had not heard me say before. Still, I think making this my last challenge to them may add meaning to it. That is my hope.

Acts 20 tells of Paul’s final meeting with the leaders of the Ephesian church. The leaders tried to convince Paul not to go to Jerusalem. They were afraid for him. However, Paul told them that he believed God was leading him. Even though he knew his path would be full of hardship, he had no choice but to go. He told them honestly that he did not think he would ever see them again. The parting was drowned in tears, but I think the elders were strengthened in their faith and their resolve because of their final time with Paul. That is my hope for the students I love–that they will find greater resolve in their own walk with Christ because of their time with me . . . that they will not lose heart because I am leaving, but that they will have one more reason to obediently cling to the Lord.